Self Acceptance

Carol Luebering, an author who wrote a lot about death and dying, said, Forgiveness is not something you do for someone else. It is something you do for yourself. An unforgiven injury binds you to a time and place someone else has chosen; it holds you trapped in a past moment and in old feelings. ... Continue Reading »

This ad was posted on Craig’s List-  “Broken guitar for sale – no strings attached.” I’ve heard of giving with no strings attached, but strumming with no strings attached …… unless you’re playing Guitar Hero, it’s going to be a challenge. I’ve been thinking about what it means to live with no strings attached; giving ... Continue Reading »

What often happens when we first start trying to live authentically is that we hear from the people, whom we’ve trained to believe we are always going to do what we’ve always done.  So, for example, if you’ve trained the boss to believe you can always get everything done yesterday with absolute perfection, then when ... Continue Reading »

In 2001, I got sick with what the doctors initially thought was an acute viral infection. I have yet to recover. Diagnosis: Chronic Fatigue Syndrome—a little-understood illness that is as debilitating as its more justly named cousins that also compromise the immune and neurological systems. My case is particularly severe. I feel as if I ... Continue Reading »

“I think she’s in here” Silence. “Nope, maybe upstairs then” Feet. Darn I sigh…..they find me. Is this normal? You know, to hide from your kids? I don’t mean the missing-in-action, type of hiding, where search parties scour muddy marshes. When everyone gives up looking, saying “oh well, we tried. She was nice enough, but ... Continue Reading »

I’m a simple man with a mind like a steel sieve. Thoughts and ideas enter and leave my mind faster than the speed of light. So I look for memorable ways of connecting ideas. I found one while I was driving recently. The rest of the family were all asleep in the car and my ... Continue Reading »

Dr Tal Ben Shahar is a positive psychologist, Harvard Professor and author of “Happier: Finding Pleasure, Meaning and Life’s Ultimate Currency.”  These are his 6 Happiness Tips. 1. Give yourself permission to be human. When we accept emotions — such as fear, sadness, or anxiety — as natural, we are more likely to overcome them. Rejecting our emotions, positive or ... Continue Reading »

Just a few words, enough to make me sick. A few ugly words, so wrong “What?” I ask, now she has to say it again. Now I hear it twice, making it worse. “My legs are fat” She says, Twice. Just like that. FAT That word, in her mouth about her self ugly and bitter ... Continue Reading »

Stop what you’re doing and listen. Put it down, all of it. The laundry basket full of other peoples things. Their thoughts, and your old stories Of who you should be tangled up with mismatched socks and worn-out layers Now Shhh, don’t move, don’t talk. It’s simple, and just about impossible Be still, silent. Just ... Continue Reading »