If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” — Dalai Lama

We learn to deepen our compassion through understanding that we are all here doing the best with the tools and skills we have at the time. Most of us handle life much differently than we did when we had less wisdom.

We all have unique histories that may include extreme difficulties. Since the scars left on our hearts do not show, we must be compassionate toward others… even when they irritate us.

Having a positive view of others can be as easy or as difficult as you make it. Truly, with your heart open, wish the best for everyone. No matter how you have been treated, see the good in everyone. Particularly the people with whom you share a challenging past will feel your “change of heart”, and won’t be able to help but to respond to you in a new way.

Long ago there was a rich man who had a beautiful wife. She was so kind and helped everyone in the village, caring for and feeding them. Because her husband loved her so much, he hired a cook to help her. One day the man was watching his wife working in the kitchen with so much love in his eyes. The helper saw him and became so jealous that she threw a pot of boiling water on the wife. The man and others in the village were so angry. They wanted to beat the helper. The wife told them to let her go and not to harm her. You see, the water had not burned the wife, because she was so filled with love and compassion that the water cooled before it touched her skin, and just rolled off.

Compassion protects us from negative energy. When we are filled with compassion, it doesn’t keep seemingly bad things from happening to us, but we accept situations and others more easily as part of life. Like the boiling water, what could have destroyed us in the past, now just rolls off the surface and cannot wound us.

Living with great compassion means that you show compassion to everyone, especially yourself. It means acceptance rather than judgment, peace rather than fear, and harmony rather than separation. Being compassionate will serve others as much as it serves you, because it is the understanding of your connection with all living beings.

Think of how deep compassion feels in your body. Think about how it could impact your relationships. Find ways to practice compassion through serving, giving, caring, and listening.

Tamara Gerlach has taught, mentored, and coached thousands of people in creating freedom and Cultivating Radiance in their lives. To read an excerpt from her new book, Cultivating Radiance, please visit her site.

  1. Melissa Kane says:

    This is so true and a good reminder. I really like the parts where you said,

    Having a positive view of others can be as easy or as difficult as you make it. Truly, with your heart open, wish the best for everyone. No matter how you have been treated, see the good in everyone.”

    Living with great compassion means that you show compassion to everyone, especially yourself. It means acceptance rather than judgment, peace rather than fear, and harmony rather than separation.

    Thanks for the message and words of wisdom! You are amazing!
     

  2. Guutob says:

    Thanks for the awesome post. Found you through twitter. Keep doing what you do. This makes a whole lot of sense 

  3. Love can do amazing things if we allow ourselves to live from our hearts – from the inside out.  We as a collective will need more compassion than ever in the coming years, as it is one of the great qualities of love and life.

  4. Sheena Byrom says:

    This is so brilliant…love it and thanks for sharing. I too found through Twitter