There was once a small boy who banged a drum all day and loved every moment of it. He would not be quiet, no matter what anyone else said or did. It drove the neighbors crazy. Various people tried to solve the problem.
The first told the boy that, if he continued to make so much noise, he would perforate his eardrums; the boy didn’t understand. The second told him that drum beating was a sacred activity and should be carried out only on special occasions. The third offered the neighbors plugs for their ears; the fourth gave the boy a book to distract him. Some of these remedies worked for a short while, but none worked for very long.
Finally, a wise old neighbor looked at the situation, handed the boy a hammer and chisel, and said, “I wonder what is INSIDE the drum?”
Eckhart Tolle said, “Be at least as interested in what goes on inside you as what happens outside. If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place.”