Expectation Articles


Great Expectations

January 20th, 2016
“What to expect when you’re expecting.” That was the name of the go-to pregnancy book back in the day. The title has always stuck with me. What is it we expect of our expectations? Or to use a current phrase, how do we manage our expectations? Just in case you have great expectations that this […]
It’s an odd lesson to learn, one that has been poking and prodding at me for years. I haven’t quite figured it all out yet and  feel as though I shouldn’t even speak about it for fear of being labeled a pessimist, because I really don’t think I am, for I always see the wine […]

Riding the Wave of Hope

August 20th, 2014
“Rainy, gloomy, drab, sunless day.  There are times when hope seems entirely clouded over; when looking for the blessings in your circumstances feels like trying to catch a ray of sunshine from six feet under.” ~ Richelle E. Goodrich I don’t know about you, but the news has been really getting me down this week. […]
They say to love your enemies, but no one tells you how to do it. It’s easy to think nice thoughts about difficult people when you’re alone, but how do you love the annoying work colleague, you know the one who’s like a shiver looking for a spine to run up. We’re supposed to find […]

The Time Is Always Now

March 25th, 2014
This is it. Smell it, listen to it, feel it. This is life, happening all around you. The gentle sounds that fill the air, the aromas and energies that fill your senses. Inhale it all. Immerse yourself in this moment like salt in an immense ocean; when you are fully present, time and space dissolve […]

Life Is a Wiggly Rhapsody

August 20th, 2013
Life doesn’t happen in straight lines, although we often expect it to. It’s the expectation that lands us in trouble. Life happens in wiggly, imperfect circles. If you want freedom from false expectations, learn to embrace the wiggles. Pat Conroy, author of The Prince of Tides, wrote No story is a straight line. The geometry […]
Closure is a myth, but progress is not. Nothing ends and nothing stays the same, which means you never arrive AND you never stay still. Living in the middle like this is a delicate balance and a big part of living skillfully. Here are three applications of this idea: The further you go, the deeper […]
St Patty’s Day is a day celebrated around the world like no other saints day. Everybody loves the Irish, whether it’s an Irish joke, a brew or a good story. St Patty’s Day is a reminder of the incredible history of Ireland and what it teaches ALL of us about life and resilience. Life has […]

How Much Is Enough?

February 12th, 2013
How much money, possessions, fitness, love, trust, happiness, anything….. is enough to satisfy our cravings? The biggest problem with the consumer driven mindset is that it dulls our inner “enough” alarm. It’s like Aesop’s famous story about the goose and the golden egg. The farmer was down on his luck when one day he saw […]

Imperfection is perfect

January 5th, 2013
In a Peanuts cartoon Lucy tells Charlie Brown, “I have examined my life and found it to be without flaw. Therefore, I’m going to hold a ceremony and present myself with a medal. I will then give a moving acceptance speech. After that, I’ll greet myself in the receiving line.” She then says, “When you’re […]