Loss/Grief Articles


Legacy Of Kindness

September 3rd, 2015
I got the call about mum at 9 in the morning. What happened next was a bit of a blur, but I remember the two hour train ride to the hospital vividly. I felt so helpless. At least when you’re driving you have your own feet on the pedals. In the train I was at […]

A Symphony In The Dark

August 24th, 2015
This is not just another blog, another poem, or a heart-felt piece of writing. This is my heart. My heart beating on the page, a heart throbbing with love and sorrow, gratitude and pain. You have left a hole so large I’ve fallen in. Your hand will not reach down this time, there is no […]

Leaving a Legacy of Love

August 23rd, 2015
The death of a mother is the first sorrow wept without her. This is very true for me right now. I have shared every joy and crisis in my life with my mum, until this one. This is the first grief I am doing without her. My mum was small in size but had a […]

Don’t Make Me Say It

December 10th, 2013
I’m ok at a few things. I can cook a decent curry, make babies smile in boring grocery lines, and put up with endless Seinfeld repeats. I’m also generally good at knowing when to stop drinking, hunting down a bargain, and sleeping in. But I am not good at goodbyes. Whether at funerals or airports, […]
Nothing leaves until it’s done with us. So you can’t move on too quickly, or let go too casually, or else IT will keep coming after you. The partner you left, the place you moved on from, the emotion you thought you were done with, the obstacle you were hoping to avoid, they will keep […]

Grieving Loss

February 22nd, 2013
So often, its only after you lose someone or something that you realize how important they are to you. Grief has so many ways of making this point; the nagging, empty feeling, the disorientation, the almost out of body aloneness. The great and wise philosopher Lemony Snicket said it best for me, It is a […]

A Plastic Smile.

December 17th, 2012
I was in the dollar store. Buying brightly coloured plastic landfill, and crying. Did everyone else feel like me? I looked around – it was hard to tell as they filled their shopping carts with crap. I held fart putty in one hand while tears streamed down my cheeks. Nothing was funny. My kids do […]

Coming To Terms With Tragedy

December 16th, 2012
“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness the astonishing light of your own being.” ~ Hafiz When it comes to grief, each person has to find their own healing in their own time and way. One of the hardest parts of grief is to feel alone. It never feels […]
How do you communicate with an emotion? This is not about talking ABOUT your feelings, but talking TO your feelings. It’s important, because emotional intelligence depends on a healthy two way communication loop; knowing which emotions are speaking and what messages they’re sending, and effectively sending messages back to them. So how do you to […]


June 8th, 2012
Life’s toughest moments hold the seed of great growth – thorns have roses, tears have heart and trauma has strength. There is wisdom in wounds, perspective in pain and growth in grief. Let the pain make you compassionate and strong, not bitter. Your life is a rose reaching for light. Keep going. Keep growing.