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A sexual frequency difference is a stubborn problem in couples pledged to monogamy.  Fun and games are the opposite of the serious deadlock when you’ve been fighting over something so intimate with someone so unfeeling.  But game theory can help solve the problem.  Play this game: For years, my husband has run training groups for […]
Many people are jaded about relationships because your trust has been betrayed and you have high walls of protection erected around your heart. All of us have limits to our trust, and different degrees of trust with different people. In our closest relationships we have an awesome opportunity to experience the deepest trust, possibly the […]


February 13th, 2013
“In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship […]
My quote of the week comes from personal growth and communication expert John Powell. The genius of communication is the ability to be both totally honest and totally kind at the same time. That really speaks to me. We all want to know and be known, love and be loved. We all want to be […]

The Power of Vulnerability

November 30th, 2012
I only cleaned the pool butt naked one time. That’s all it took to learn the lesson. I was home alone. The sun was shining. The birds were singing. All was calm and peaceful as I moved around the edge of the pool with skimming pole in hand. I was so taken with my garden […]
Freeze frame simple moments of joy in your mind. Nothing is more important than sharing beautiful moments with people you love. Let love be your frame of reference. Let presence be your time frame. Let intimacy inspire you to climb the mountain of your dreams.


June 25th, 2012
The more protective walls you tear down the more intimacy you enjoy. Put the big bad wolf of betrayal behind you and howl to the moon that you are ready for intimacy. You may have been hurt before, but now you are wiser and more self aware. Faced with the choice of protection or intimacy, […]

Floating Mud Pies.

February 14th, 2012
Show me a girl who meets a boy. A boy who doesn’t know how to steal a look without being caught. A boy who can only ever be himself, who hasn’t ever learned how to hide, only seek. Together they chase the chance to be. Once caught, they stare at the truth within the other. […]

Make Love An Art

February 13th, 2012
“Doctor,” the embarrassed woman says, “I have a problem. My husband doesn’t excite me anymore. I’m worried there is something wrong with me.” “Mrs. Thomas, why don’t you both come in to see me and we will see what we can do.” The next day the nervous man trails behind his wife to the doctor’s office. They talk for […]

A Close Shave

February 8th, 2011
I try to have a conversation from the bedroom. He was in the bathroom. “So what did you say?” he asked paying only half attention. I sat in a huff on the edge of the bed putting on my socks. The day was beginning. It was an ordinary moment in an ordinary day. “Didn’t I […]