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Riding the Wave of Hope

August 20th, 2014
“Rainy, gloomy, drab, sunless day.  There are times when hope seems entirely clouded over; when looking for the blessings in your circumstances feels like trying to catch a ray of sunshine from six feet under.” ~ Richelle E. Goodrich I don’t know about you, but the news has been really getting me down this week. […]
“It’s a great thing when you realize you still have the ability to surprise yourself. Makes you wonder what else you can do that you’ve forgotten about.” ~ Alan Ball As I wrote last week, I’m growing to accept being an introvert. But that doesn’t mean I can’t sometimes surprise myself. Introvert and extrovert exist […]
Nothing leaves until it’s done with us. So you can’t move on too quickly, or let go too casually, or else IT will keep coming after you. The partner you left, the place you moved on from, the emotion you thought you were done with, the obstacle you were hoping to avoid, they will keep […]

Holding On and Letting Go

August 12th, 2013
19th century British author, Havelock Ellis, said All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on. This is to true. Yesterday we sent our oldest son off to College for his second year. We’re experienced at letting him go, but this year is different, seeing as we’re moving […]

The Mother Load

May 13th, 2013
We had a yard sale last week. A grandmother bought a bunch of furniture from us as she had family moving in. She said she would be back to haul it away. We were surprised to see her turn up in a two door convertible and even more surprised when she crammed computer tables and […]

Grieving Loss

February 22nd, 2013
So often, its only after you lose someone or something that you realize how important they are to you. Grief has so many ways of making this point; the nagging, empty feeling, the disorientation, the almost out of body aloneness. The great and wise philosopher Lemony Snicket said it best for me, It is a […]
The great and wise Einstein is said to have said, “Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler.” This got me thinking about simplicity. Thinking about simplicity is a dangerous thing to do, and sure enough I over thought it and cut myself on Occam’s Razor. If you don’t know what Occam’s […]

Transforming Memories

January 3rd, 2013
A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future. Lewis Smedes Become the master of your memories instead of letting memory control you. Ironically, it’s because we forget who we are […]

You’ve Got To Have Faith

December 4th, 2012
George Michael was right. You do gotta have faith. But what is it? Why is it important? And how do you grow it like the proverbial mustard seed? Before we moved to America, I took a pilgrimage to the Mecca of extreme leisure in Queenstown, New Zealand, to do a Bungee jump. I did it […]

Freaking Out the Controller

December 3rd, 2012
Knock knock! Who’s there? Control freak. Now you say, “control freak who?” Too slow. Now laugh. And stop. Am I successfully remote controlling you? Alright, I confess. I’m a control freak. My family don’t call me “key man” because I collect keys. I like to be in the driver’s seat, can’t stand being a passenger. […]

Inner Peace and Letting Go

November 11th, 2012
Inner peace? We all want it, and we want it now. So how do you get it?  Nobody can give you inner peace. You have to find it yourself. Its not even something you find. You just have to stop burying it. It is your own thoughts that are denying you this innate experience. It […]

Take Nothing Personally

August 29th, 2012
Zig Ziglar said, “Every obnoxious act is a cry for help.” Wow! What an amazing way to reframe being attacked. It’s not easy, mind you, in the heat of the moment. But imagine how different life would be if we lived with that sort of compassion. About twenty five years ago, I was physically attacked […]


August 5th, 2012
You can’t change what happened in the past. It’s all water under the bridge flowing in a sea of memory. You can build a bridge in your mind, from memory to meaning. Choose how much power you give the past, and what you make it mean about who you are. From this perspective, the view […]


July 12th, 2012
Kindness is the master key that opens every heart. If you are fumbling for the right words, like a late night search for keys, start with “I care”, “I understand” and “I’m here for you”. You will open the door to healing. Guarded hearts will be unlocked. Turn the key of kindness with words of […]

Music Man.

July 3rd, 2012
My study is upstairs. Across from his room. His too busy with life room. Flung with rushing to the next thing room. The barely home room. Clothes too busy to pick up. A notice board with thick wads of paper, pay stubs and college forms. And then there is his music. His eclectic collection from […]