Change and Habits

December 1st, 2011

We ALL have something(s) we want to change, whether it’s a destructive habit, an injustice or a ten dollar bill. We want to eliminate things that aren’t serving us or maybe even things that are making us miserable. We want to add much more of the things that make us feel alive and inspired.

If you really want to change your life, you have to align your lifestyle. It’s a little like this old story,

A lady walked up to a little old man rocking in a chair on his porch. “I couldn’t help noticing how happy you look,” she said.

“What’s your secret for a long and happy life?”

“I smoke three packs of cigarettes a day,” he said. “I also drink a case of whiskey a week, have oily foods, and never exercise.”

“That’s amazing,” the lady said.

“How old are you?’

“Twenty-six,” he said.

Sometimes we do a fabulous job of pretending we’re happy, when inside we’re dying.

Imagine being truly happy, inside and out. Why not?

Imagine looking and feeling your age (or younger). Why not?

Imagine living a life that matches your highest vision. Why not?

Imagine changing destructive habits with ease and replacing them with life affirming activities that fill your life with meaning. Why not?

I have a friend with Alzheimer ’s disease. After being a heavy smoker for over 30 years, one day she forgot that she was a smoker. She just forgot and never smoked again. Her health improved in many ways, and she became a more peaceful person. Her life is not rosy. She has all the frustrations that come with Alzheimers that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. However her experience offers a beautiful reminder that it IS possible to develop inner peace while so much is changing inside and out and it CAN happen rapidly.

You CAN change the auto responder on any habits you want to and you can do it NOW. Turn a habit into a choice by bathing it in the light of awareness, revealing its hollow satisfaction for what it is, focusing on your positive hopes and moving from surviving to thriving.

Do it with a combination of

WILL POWER, self control

STILL POWER, self awareness


THRILL POWER, self motivation.

Will power, still power and thrill power combine when what you want matches who you are, when your efforts match your enthusiasm and you attract all the resources and support you need to create effortless change. You are centered. You are strong. You are motivated.

How often do you have to practice change? Every day.

An aspiring comic ran into Jerry Seinfeld in a club and asked for some advice.  Apparently, Jerry said that the key to improving as a comedian is to write better jokes and the key to writing better jokes is to write jokes EVERY day.

Seinfeld also shared his own method for creating a positive habit:

  • Get a wall calendar that displays an entire year on one page.
  • Get a red magic marker.
  • Write a big X on the wall calendar for every day that you actually write jokes.

If you write every day, you’ll produce a chain of red X’s across the calendar. And if you miss a day, you’ll break the chain.

“Don’t break the chain,” Seinfeld said.

It’s simple, but brilliant. It helps to keep you focused. You can see your progress visually and at a glance. You have the satisfaction of physically marking the calendar with daily successes.

This applies to many changes you may be working on. Mark each day you meditate. Mark each day you do some exercise. Mark each day you don’t smoke. Mark each day you don’t sabotage yourself. Don’t break the chain.

Stephen Covey asks a great question in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People:

What one thing could you do (you aren’t doing now) that if you did on a regular basis, would make a tremendous positive difference in your personal life?

Or put the question in reverse:

What one thing could you stop doing on a regular basis would make a tremendous positive difference in your personal life?

Either way, create a chain of well chosen habits in your life. Do it with will power, still power and thrill power.

I’m super excited about this online change course I created. Set the tone for positive change in your life. Click here to read more. ( )

The course is practically oriented. It guides you through a nine step process, an expanded form of the AAA approach to change: awareness, acceptance and action. You can download the class and listen at a time when it suits you.

Become a master at change. Enjoy effortless flow in your life .Rediscover your own intuitive ability to change, and change well. Find out more at this link.

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  1. Thanks for the info. Change is hard. I know!! Well power and never give up.

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  4. ian says:

    Awareness, acceptance and action, Jeanne

  5. Jeanne says:

    Thank you! It’s so funny how some days your mind can’t expand past your car service acronyms.

  6. Ema says:

    Hi, the problem for me is when I suddenly want to change everthing at once…..

  7. maria says:

    true !!! I really like this article .. comes at the perfect time..!! thanks.

  8. Thanks, Ian. Great piece. The advice from Jerry Seinfeld is very useful. Sometimes we need to start acting differently before we start feelings differently and thinking differently. Calendars and talk logs are a great way to do that.

  9. Rekha says:

    Great advice..I need it now more than ever..thanks!!

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